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Check Your Relationship

If a person you know is being abused, please take action. Do not hesitate to call 911 right away if you feel someone is in immediate danger.

 

If you think you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship, but aren’t sure, answer the following questions:

  1. Are you unable to name at least five characteristics of your partner that you really admire and like?
  2. Is your partner unhappy that you have other friends?
  3. Does your partner not ask for and respect your opinion?
  4. Do you not consider your partner a friend?
  5. Do you not “act like yourself” when you are with your partner?
  6. Does your partner check up on you or want you to say where you’ve been after you’ve been apart?
  7. Have you ever seen your partner throw, hit, or break things when angry?
  8. Does your partner ever pressure you for sex?
  9. Does your partner ever put you down, either when you’re alone or when you’re out together?
  10. Are you ever frightened by your partner’s temper?
  11. Do you ever find yourself apologizing for your partner’s behavior?
  12. Has your partner ever done or said anything to you that made you fear for your own safety, the safety of your child or a pet, or someone else’s safety?
  13. Do you arrive late or miss work frequently?
  14. Do you get excessive telephone calls at home or work from your partner?
  15. Do you find it hard to get or keep a job or go to school?
  16. Are you stopped from taking medication you need or seeking medical help?
  17. Do you feel afraid at home?
  18. Are you threatened with violence?
  19. Are you ever get hit, kicked, or shoved?
  20. Do you feel that you have no choice about how you spend your time, where you go, or what you wear?
  21. Do you have to ask your partner for permission to make everyday decisions?
  22. Do you feel bad about yourself because your partner calls you names, insults you, or puts you down?
  23. Do you submit to sexual intercourse or engage in sexual acts against your will?
  24. Are you forced to accept your partner’s decisions because you’re afraid of his/her anger?
  25. Have you changed your behavior because you’re afraid of the consequences of a fight?
  26. Has your partner limited your access to money, bankbooks, checkbooks, financial statements, birth certificates, and passports?
  27. Does your partner limit your time with your friends, relatives, neighbors, or co-workers because of his/her demands or criticism of them?
  28. Are you ever accused unjustly of flirting with others or having affairs?
  29. Do you ever get stopped from leaving the house?
  30. Do arguments with your partner often end with someone being physically hurt?
  31. Have you been injured during these fights?
  32. Do you avoid your partner’s anger to keep from making things worse?
  33. Does your partner destroy things you care about such as pets, family photos, or clothes?
  34. Does your partner ever threaten to hurt you when you disagree?
  35. Do you have to ask permission for almost everything you do?
  36. Does your partner often put you down?
  37. Are you starting to believe what your partner says about you?
  38. Have you ever been made to have sex when or in ways that you didn’t want?
  39. Are you prevented from seeing your friends or family, from getting a job, or from continuing your education?
  40. Do you feel isolated or alone?
  41. Are you afraid to tell anyone the truth about what is happening to you?

 Call our hotline at 828-894-2340 for information and advice on how to best help your loved one. All calls are free, strictly confidential, and you may choose to remain anonymous. We are here to help!

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