Common Myths About Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse: What Every Bystander Should Know
Domestic violence and sexual abuse are topics that often carry misconceptions, and these myths can prevent victims from getting the help they need. These misunderstandings also affect how bystanders respond, potentially leading to silence instead of action. Breaking through these myths is a critical step toward supporting survivors and creating safer communities.
Steps to Hope, a nonprofit organization dedicated to ending domestic violence and sexual abuse, works tirelessly to provide education, support, and resources to those affected. By addressing these myths head-on, we can empower individuals to stand up against abuse and make a difference.
Myth 1: Domestic violence only happens to certain types of people
One of the most common misconceptions about domestic violence is that it only happens to specific groups of people—whether based on socioeconomic status, culture, or gender. The reality is that abuse can affect anyone, regardless of background. Wealth, education, or outward appearances do not protect someone from experiencing domestic violence.
This myth is harmful because it allows people to assume that abuse is someone else’s problem. It can also make victims feel isolated, ashamed, or less likely to reach out for help because they believe they don’t fit the stereotype of a victim.
As a bystander, it’s important to recognize that anyone can be affected. If you notice warning signs—like someone becoming withdrawn, showing physical injuries, or displaying sudden changes in behavior—don’t dismiss your concerns. Speak up, offer support, and point them to resources like Steps to Hope, which provides services to victims from all walks of life.
Myth 2: If the abuse was really that bad, the victim would just leave
Another harmful belief is that leaving an abusive relationship is as simple as walking away. In reality, leaving can be incredibly complicated and dangerous. Victims may stay for a variety of reasons, including financial dependence, fear of retaliation, emotional attachment, concern for their children, or lack of support.
This myth can lead to judgment and frustration from bystanders who don’t understand why a victim hasn’t left. Instead of offering support, some may unintentionally blame the victim, which can make the situation even worse.
As a bystander, it’s critical to be patient and compassionate. Avoid making statements like Why don’t you just leave? and instead offer a listening ear. Let them know you’re there to help in any way they need. Steps to Hope provides counseling, safety planning, and other resources that can help victims navigate these challenges safely.
Myth 3: Sexual abuse is always committed by strangers
Many people think of sexual abuse as something that happens in dark alleys at the hands of strangers. However, the majority of sexual abuse cases involve someone the victim knows—such as a friend, family member, or trusted authority figure.
This myth is harmful because it shifts focus away from the real risks and can make victims feel disbelieved if they come forward. It also allows abusers in trusted roles to continue their behavior without accountability.
As a bystander, it’s important to believe survivors and understand that their experiences are valid, even if the perpetrator doesn’t fit the stereotype. If someone shares their story with you, offer support and encourage them to seek professional help. Steps to Hope offers confidential services to those affected by sexual abuse, helping them reclaim their voices and take steps toward healing.
Addressing myths about domestic violence and sexual abuse is essential for fostering understanding, empathy, and action. Misconceptions can keep victims silent and discourage bystanders from stepping in when it matters most. By recognizing the truth behind these issues, we can all play a role in creating a safer, more supportive environment for survivors.
If you or someone you know needs help, Steps to Hope is here to provide resources, guidance, and a safe space to turn to. Together, we can challenge these myths, support victims, and work toward ending domestic violence and sexual abuse in our communities.